Have you ever had the feeling when you wake up in the morning, the sky is more beautiful than usual, the coffee you have every morning tastes fresher than ever; strangers are kinder than usual; and air is much fresher than ever. Yes life CAN get better.
I have to say I am the few lucky ones. Many struggles, betrayal and obstacles in last two years. Finally life has smiled back at me again. The anger and disappointment in life seem flying away and slowly we learn how to forgive and forget.
"life is too short" don't let it stops you to catch moments in life they say. Doesn't make sense to remember the ugly and evil in many so we can recognize the good and kind in few? Should we leave the judgement of people who betrayed us to others so we can appreciate the few honest ones we can come across?
Monday, July 22, 2013
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
the modern day bully
What is a bully. The kid in the backyard taking your lunch money? The popular girl in school post nasty comments on your facebook? I think we have the mistake of everyone can grow out off been bullied. Is it true? Even we are adults, the bullies still exist in different form. Our colleague, management, friends, parents etc.
who created bully? Believe or not, we did. We made the bullies, we feed the bullies with our non-confrontation indirective communication, we made the bullies the way they are. We single hand created a bully. Every time we let bully to get away with their ridiculous demand, they grow because no one else has ever told them no. The word of no doesn't exist in their lives because we are so afraid to confront the "no"
What we can do. stand up and say "no" it is not okay to been bullied, it is not fair to been pushed around, it is not justice. Should we sit the dark corner, silently take all the pain and shame? or we stand up to say "no" even it can change nothing. At least we have done what we can which is giving them the "no". yes the definition of "no" exists in this world.
who created bully? Believe or not, we did. We made the bullies, we feed the bullies with our non-confrontation indirective communication, we made the bullies the way they are. We single hand created a bully. Every time we let bully to get away with their ridiculous demand, they grow because no one else has ever told them no. The word of no doesn't exist in their lives because we are so afraid to confront the "no"
What we can do. stand up and say "no" it is not okay to been bullied, it is not fair to been pushed around, it is not justice. Should we sit the dark corner, silently take all the pain and shame? or we stand up to say "no" even it can change nothing. At least we have done what we can which is giving them the "no". yes the definition of "no" exists in this world.
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
The return.
It has been a while since last time I wrote anything in the blog. Things has been better now since we moved out off Hong Kong last May 2012. Now we have been calling Singapore home for last 7 months. I really got the time to expand my social circle and meeting more people which I always enjoy. One interesting discovery, for me, at the least. The Generation Y. For those of who don't know about generation Y. Is anyone who is born after 1981, which including myself. For the longest time I have been questioning my own identity and personality. My parents always want to mode me to something I am not for the longest time I thought this is my fault. Being different. Till recently I realize being different and unique are the characters of generation Y.
Generation Y.
This group of people are possibility driven, social animal, fan of individualistic, fickle, 10 minute attention expand, dreamer, idealistic and the crazy people who believe they can change the world. All above are true. The last character resonate with me the most. The crazy people who believe they can change the world. So many time I have heard this expression from different age group, mostly someone who is much order than me. Who are more experienced and being around the block much longer. Why they are address this like generation Y. Is it a calling? Is it a prediction? why?
Why we are different.
Unlike our parents and parents before them. Thanks to their hard work and solid foundation. We the generation Y no longer need to survive on daily bases. We have the basic resources for some of us even more. Great education, exposure to the world outside our box, and the financial independent. This is the time to take the world to the next level. I won't agree with expression we are crazy enough to believe we can change the world. I would like to rephrase that. We are resourceful enough that we can change the world.
So generation Y, take the advantage of what our previous generations have left us, take the resource and let it be a brighter future for the generation after all. When they write about that. The history will say it was the generation Y changes the direction of humanity and structure of society.
It has been a while since last time I wrote anything in the blog. Things has been better now since we moved out off Hong Kong last May 2012. Now we have been calling Singapore home for last 7 months. I really got the time to expand my social circle and meeting more people which I always enjoy. One interesting discovery, for me, at the least. The Generation Y. For those of who don't know about generation Y. Is anyone who is born after 1981, which including myself. For the longest time I have been questioning my own identity and personality. My parents always want to mode me to something I am not for the longest time I thought this is my fault. Being different. Till recently I realize being different and unique are the characters of generation Y.
Generation Y.
This group of people are possibility driven, social animal, fan of individualistic, fickle, 10 minute attention expand, dreamer, idealistic and the crazy people who believe they can change the world. All above are true. The last character resonate with me the most. The crazy people who believe they can change the world. So many time I have heard this expression from different age group, mostly someone who is much order than me. Who are more experienced and being around the block much longer. Why they are address this like generation Y. Is it a calling? Is it a prediction? why?
Why we are different.
Unlike our parents and parents before them. Thanks to their hard work and solid foundation. We the generation Y no longer need to survive on daily bases. We have the basic resources for some of us even more. Great education, exposure to the world outside our box, and the financial independent. This is the time to take the world to the next level. I won't agree with expression we are crazy enough to believe we can change the world. I would like to rephrase that. We are resourceful enough that we can change the world.
So generation Y, take the advantage of what our previous generations have left us, take the resource and let it be a brighter future for the generation after all. When they write about that. The history will say it was the generation Y changes the direction of humanity and structure of society.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Is fear a stopping stone or stepping stone.
It has been a while since my last entry to my own blog. Things have been changed in my life, mostly in a good way. I moved to Singapore away from Hong Kong back in May. Right before I left HK I went to my grandmother's funeral. She is my last reason to stay close to China, now she is no longer with me. There is no other reasons for me to return, at this point. Both of my parents are still physically able to travel and they love to travel. I think in the future, Singapore can be another place on the map worth their visit.
One thing I notice is the whole year in HK working for ADIO, the whole experience was absolutely unpleasant and frankly speaking disappointing. I have lost my passion and love toward what I do along with my motivation. Even things in Singapore are much better I still don't have that fire. The fire inside of me is long gone. This is disturbing fact because part of me just don't care or want to care anymore. I do believe whatever I used to have is not 100% gone, maybe small portion of it still there but I don't want to apply it. Afraid to apply it? Am I still not getting over that horrifying experience in HK? Am I using that experience as excuse not do well? Am I using that experience as an excuses to blame my failure? True leader takes on responsibility rather than blaming others. Am I trying to blame my failure to my past experience? If all above are true. Why am I doing this? Fear to fail again? or looking for back up if I do fail in the future?
One thing I notice is the whole year in HK working for ADIO, the whole experience was absolutely unpleasant and frankly speaking disappointing. I have lost my passion and love toward what I do along with my motivation. Even things in Singapore are much better I still don't have that fire. The fire inside of me is long gone. This is disturbing fact because part of me just don't care or want to care anymore. I do believe whatever I used to have is not 100% gone, maybe small portion of it still there but I don't want to apply it. Afraid to apply it? Am I still not getting over that horrifying experience in HK? Am I using that experience as excuse not do well? Am I using that experience as an excuses to blame my failure? True leader takes on responsibility rather than blaming others. Am I trying to blame my failure to my past experience? If all above are true. Why am I doing this? Fear to fail again? or looking for back up if I do fail in the future?
Friday, March 2, 2012
I work for Anti-Christ
I am not trying to turn this blog into big complain blog but sometime I think the moral of the upper level management is definitely reaching for all time low. They are probably worshipping Satan during the weekend. The worst of all is he is constantly push the value of christainality faith. He has this fake mask of honorable, faithful, and trust worthy. But in reality he will lure the victims with lies, picture them a future he can never deliver and blame all the consequence on them in the name of Jesus Christ. If this is not Anti-Christ I don't know what is. He has enemies in many places, a reputation speaks nothing but trick, lie, and pure evil. But the general public is allowing him to roaming on the earth freely with no warming and punishment. Did we allow this to happen? Did we the society punish the honesty and reward evil? Did we lower the moral standard? For exchange of what?
Thursday, March 1, 2012
We are not alone
I want to start this blog about my father. I didn't know about this story till several years ago because I was very young when all this happened. Well let me tell you a story about my father first
He had a steady job right before married to my mother, several years after I was born. He decide to run little business on the side. It was nothing big and I have little recollection of what was going on. But the business went under after half year and he got himself into a situation which was pretty bad. Not only he must sells his business or close it down. He also got himself into some financial problems. Also want to remind you that he is the first born in the family, this failure does play a big factor in his life. He didn't ask any help from his parents because of the shame and disappointment he expected from his parents. But his situation didn't get better over the time. He was very desperate and the only way out is to seek help from my grandparents. He picked the date to pay a visit to my grandfather and he was going through his mind numerous times how to ask my grandfather, what would he said, would he be disappointed, would he be mad, what would he response. As you can tell this was eating him alive from inside. Okay he finally sat down with my grandfather, before he asked. My grandfather handed him a check and said "next time if you are having trouble you can always come to me first" Simple as that, my grandfather didn't even want to hear any explanation, or anything. He just simply understood and helped my father out at this desperate moment.
To conclude this story, our parents were once in desperate situation before, worse or better than the one you are going through. They knew exactly how it felt when pushed or been corned and knowing there is no way out. At that moment may be someone helped them out or they found some way to dig themselves out. It doesn't matter if they got help or not. The thing that matters is they knew exactly how desperate you are and they would refuse to let that happen to you. So it doesn't matter where you are, where you from, what kind of race you are. When you need help, you can always count your family in first. It doesn't matter if they can help you or not, they will always be there for you. So you, if you are desperate, you are not alone, someone is out there for you. Don't be afraid, don't feel lonely, even you have been corned and there is always way out. There is always help on the way, the only things stand in between way out and continued to be corned are your own pride and ego.
He had a steady job right before married to my mother, several years after I was born. He decide to run little business on the side. It was nothing big and I have little recollection of what was going on. But the business went under after half year and he got himself into a situation which was pretty bad. Not only he must sells his business or close it down. He also got himself into some financial problems. Also want to remind you that he is the first born in the family, this failure does play a big factor in his life. He didn't ask any help from his parents because of the shame and disappointment he expected from his parents. But his situation didn't get better over the time. He was very desperate and the only way out is to seek help from my grandparents. He picked the date to pay a visit to my grandfather and he was going through his mind numerous times how to ask my grandfather, what would he said, would he be disappointed, would he be mad, what would he response. As you can tell this was eating him alive from inside. Okay he finally sat down with my grandfather, before he asked. My grandfather handed him a check and said "next time if you are having trouble you can always come to me first" Simple as that, my grandfather didn't even want to hear any explanation, or anything. He just simply understood and helped my father out at this desperate moment.
To conclude this story, our parents were once in desperate situation before, worse or better than the one you are going through. They knew exactly how it felt when pushed or been corned and knowing there is no way out. At that moment may be someone helped them out or they found some way to dig themselves out. It doesn't matter if they got help or not. The thing that matters is they knew exactly how desperate you are and they would refuse to let that happen to you. So it doesn't matter where you are, where you from, what kind of race you are. When you need help, you can always count your family in first. It doesn't matter if they can help you or not, they will always be there for you. So you, if you are desperate, you are not alone, someone is out there for you. Don't be afraid, don't feel lonely, even you have been corned and there is always way out. There is always help on the way, the only things stand in between way out and continued to be corned are your own pride and ego.
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
The universe/mighty power/God cares
Recently we are constantly getting signs, more ensure about the future and be honest it is definitely more comfort for me, knowing HIM really cares and I am not walking on this path alone.
I don't want complain anymore
Seriously I know the current situation is only temporarily, I really should stop constantly pile up the negativity in my life rather than have faith for the future. The complain, hate, anxious for the future are eating me alive from the inside. This form of cancer must be stopped.
How dare we allow fear to influence our decision, be part of our life and changes our version. Get over this hump, if next one is worse, more difficult, so what! If it means I have to fail once again so what! I will get up once again and this time I refuse to play nice. I see myself as an elephant, other animal can try to bit me, kick me, hunt me because elephants are strong and big and can take minor mutilation. But if it gets angered, the elephant will come back with full vengeance and destroy everything stands on its way.
I don't want complain anymore
Seriously I know the current situation is only temporarily, I really should stop constantly pile up the negativity in my life rather than have faith for the future. The complain, hate, anxious for the future are eating me alive from the inside. This form of cancer must be stopped.
How dare we allow fear to influence our decision, be part of our life and changes our version. Get over this hump, if next one is worse, more difficult, so what! If it means I have to fail once again so what! I will get up once again and this time I refuse to play nice. I see myself as an elephant, other animal can try to bit me, kick me, hunt me because elephants are strong and big and can take minor mutilation. But if it gets angered, the elephant will come back with full vengeance and destroy everything stands on its way.
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